I’ll be honest. I’m writing this article because it’s an assignment from a conscious business coaching program I’ve committed to. I’m not excited about it. In fact, when my subgroup had the task of choosing a topic to create a meme and education materials for and they chose receiving I was annoyed. Afraid even because I’m not sure what receiving actually is and as an Access Consciousness Facilitator, I ought to know. I mean, it is one of the four cornerstones of consciousness.
Since I didn’t seem to have my own idea of what the word actually is, or more accurately, sort of froze up when faced with the task of educating people on it, I turned to Webster’s 1828 American Dictionary of the English Language for help. Here’s what the good, old dictionary has to say:
RECE'IVE, verb transitive [Latin recipio; re and capio, to take.]
1. To take, as a thing offered or sent; to accept.
2. To take as due or as a reward.
3. To take or obtain from another in any manner, and either good or evil.
4. To take, as a thing communicated; as, to receive a wound by a shot; to receive a disease by contagion.
5. To take or obtain intellectually; as, to receive an opinion or notion from others.
6. To embrace.
7. To allow; to hold; to retain; as a custom long received.
8. To admit.
9. To welcome; to lodge and entertain; as a guest.
10. To admit into membership or fellowship.
11. To take in or on; to hold; to contain.
12. To be endowed with.
13. To take into a place or state.
14. To take or have as something ascribed; as, to receive praise or blame.
15. To bear with or suffer.
16. To believe in.
17. To accept or admit officially or in an official character.
18. To take stolen goods from a thief, knowing them to be stolen.
Definition is always a limitation. It’s the parameters we set for ourselves, the world, and everything in it. Why turn to a dictionary then? Well, it’s actually a powerful exercise in receiving. It can help you receive what your own definitions are on a topic so that you can let those definitions go and ultimately set yourself free.
How do you get beyond definition? Have a look at what the word receiving brings up for you. I’ll show you what comes up for me to help you get the ball rolling:
How many of Webster’s definitions are about taking? Why would anyone care to receive if they must take. Seems aggressive for an act that ought to be about relaxation, ease, and peace, don’t you think?
And then there’s the accepting part of receiving. How many times have you had to accept something that really wasn’t acceptable. Someone’s shitty behavior, less than you’d like to have, the things you cannot change… Acceptance, more often than not, requires you to give up your seat and succumb to something less than. Acceptance is too often the path of mediocrity.
To embrace. Now that’s got a different ring to it. OK, maybe I’ll receive. Embrace has the energy of communion in it. Both parties are active participants in an embrace.
To allow; to hold; to retain. This is flat out confusing. Allowing has a stinging superiority to it. You have to know all and be better than to allow something to occur. Just call me Your Highness. How do you receive something if you’re superior to it? If you’re too good for a million dollars, can you ever have it?
To admit. Yes. This is the thing we all long for. How often is admitting about admitting to our wrongs. Admitting to the facts. Admitting to a set of evidence that we can never change. Now I really want to receive. But wait, what if admitting could be about admitting to the greatness? Admitting to the magic? Admitting that you can change anything? Maybe there’s hope in receiving afterall...
To welcome; to lodge and entertain; as a guest. OK. This. It’s more like embracing. Welcoming is also an active energy. There are two parties. Both celebrating. There is the gift of being welcomed and the gift of doing the welcoming. I suppose I won’t throw receiving entirely away.
To admit into membership or fellowship. Just like welcoming, though usually when you’re part of a membership or fellowship there are rules to follow and how many times do you have to blind yourself from the all-of-you so that you can stay in the group?
To take in or on; to hold; to contain. Receiving has to last more than 10 seconds??? Why do I have to hold onto or contain anything to receive it?
To be endowed with. Well, I mean, I’ve never know endowment to be a bad thing…
This simple exercise can help you discover where you’ve defined what receiving is and therefor limited yourself. To further my honesty, writing this article has been an incredible gift of receiving for me personally. I didn’t realize how many crazy ideas I’ve had about the topic but now that I do, I can simply clear them.
At this point you must be wondering how the heck I’ll clear them. I mean, these ideas have been around forever. Just look. I found them in an old dictionary. Surely I can’t just clear them.
Actually I can. The road to freedom starts with honesty and the Access Consciousness Clearing Statement. I can simply turn to the superheros of consciousness and POC/POD everything I’ve got twisted up about receiving. Don’t believe me? I dare you to try it.
Start by asking yourself, “what does receiving mean to me?”. Next, list out all the stuff that comes up: the good definitions, the bad ones. The weird memories. Everything your family and teachers and churches and culture taught you receiving is and is not. All of it. Write it out. Lastly, use POC and POD to start letting go of your definitions in favor of discovering what receiving truly is, what it can be, and how you can begin to receive more of you.
And then let me know what you discover… I’d love to hear.
With more clarity than I had before ~Donna Salemink
Lit and Comp teacher gone rogue, disguised now as a Living and Relationship Coach, Body Worker, and Access Consciousness Facilitator, I still sneak off to write because, well, it makes me come alive and it's one of the joyful ways I create the future.