Are you starting to notice that things can transform rather quickly? Like, everything can change in a matter of seconds or minutes? All of the sudden friendships and relationships don't feel the same, business looks totally different, and the stuff you were doing yesterday doesn't seem to work today?
A few of my most valuable relationships have shifted DYNAMICALLY over the course of the last couple weeks and I'm finding that either I'm simply not connected to people whose worlds I was totally inhabiting before or that the connections are flat out incongruent and that talking with these friends is nearly painful now.
After a few days of thinking there must be something terribly wrong with me because I couldn't line up with people the same way (and some of them are almost literally running away), I was lucky enough to chat with someone going through a similar thing and was reminded that I'm simply different. I've morphed and when I morph, people often fall away. No wrongness in that. No rightness either - on anyone's part. Just difference.
Duh! Even though this has happened more times than I can count in just this one lifetime I still forget! Silly girl!
So, the question is, without being wound up the same way in these friends' realities, now what?
HERE ARE A COUPLE POSSIBILITIES you might not have considered for when you're changing and the change is so phenomenal that you see it showing up instantaneously…
So, when everyone goes away and nothing seems to be working in your life, what if instead of assuming there's anything wrong, you allowed yourself to be curiouser than ever? Maybe you're transforming to such a degree as has never yet been possible.
Because, um… yeah… you're that f~cking cool!
I was talking with a friend recently and had a huge AHA with regards to money! I could see in her Universe a totally fabricated world; she had invented a Fantasyland where she can completely escape living when it comes to money. As I listened to my friend tell me about the future she is sure is coming to fruition I was near speechless because something didn't quite match up. I mean, there's no doubt she's creating a future, but the energy of her conclusion of what was going to show up didn't match at all what is actualizing. She was doing hope and affirmation. Not awareness and being. She was doing, if I say this, think this, push out "negativity," and hope enough, what I want will actualize the way I decided it should. Nothing controlling about that - haha!
Sound familiar? How many of you are doing hope and fantasy and a bastardized version of control instead of presence and true power?
Now, there's nothing wrong with hope and affirmation and control. In fact, this is what the self-help, spiritual, metaphysical, educational, and therapeutic communities tell us to do. Believe it to see it kind of stuff. But does that actually work? I guess looking back at my life, it sort of works. It's just that I'm ready to get off the fence, get out of 'sort of' living and totally be here. Maybe you're ready too?
I'm grateful for this friend because it's often easier to see things in other people than it is to see what I'm doing and a little investigation has revealed my own escape haven. Um. Uh. And not just any haven either… When I escape, I do it right! This lifetime I chose a dad who played brass in the old town band at DISNEYLAND of all places. Guess where I spent a lot of time as a kid? And guess where my parents got married... KNOTT'S BERRY FARM (another theme park in SoCal) of all places. I mean, who gets married amidst the tea cups and log ride and the Montezuma's Revenge roller coaster? Well. My parents. That's who.
I'll admit, this is kind of cool. OK. It's really damn cool actually. Especially for a kid. I definitely know how to have fun and so does my family. But there's a piece here that doesn't match up anymore. In my family there was a real reluctance to having a handle on what was actually going on with money. One year we'd have a yacht and I'd be taking sailing lessons and driving around with my dad in his convertible Porsche. The next, I'd be walking a mile and back to the grocery store because we were broke and without a car. Yeah. Not as fun as Montezuma's Revenge!
And here's the part I'm actually dealing with… I've mimicked this roller coaster, binge/purge way of living, using my family as the excuse to create a life that ranges from pathetic to beyond belief amazing. Are you still mimicking your family's story around money? Are you still using your family as the excuse to never learn about money? Are you still using anything as an excuse to never go beyond the fantasy and into presence with money?
Thank goodness I've got some NEW TOOLS I'm using to change this. What are they? Keep reading and see. And consider joining me in a telecall series devoted to stepping out of the fantasies you use to never free your own financial world. Pop into the free intro call THIS TUESDAY AT 7pm mst to meet me and get a sense of the energy of the class (if you haven't already - haha). Just click the image below to register. The 12 week journey starts the following Tuesday and is less than $25 a week.
I wonder what the world would be like if you stepped out of fantasy, story, and excuses? What if you started getting honest and began to access everything YOU KNOW about money?
What’s your relationship with money really like? What would you like it to be?
Personally, money has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows and I’m curioser than ever about what’s truly possible with money that I’ve never considered. And I’m tapping into some amazing adventures using a couple tricks and tools I’d like to share with you.
Maybe you’d like to change things up in your financial reality too?
1 – The How to Become Money Workbook by Access Consciousness ™ founder, Gary Douglas. This is not a book to skim through lightly one time, my friend. Gary often recommends people read it every couple weeks for six months to a year if they truly want to expand their awareness around and flows with money and, well, that’s exactly what I’ve been doing.
Now, I’m not gonna lie and say that this exploration has been super fun at all times. I’ve had to look some of my ugliest, most insane points of view about money square in the eye. For example, I’ve had some weird, deep seeded hate with regards to money for most of my life. Even as a little kid I can remember giving up paper money in favor of smaller denominations of coins. And I come from a family with a long line of financial abuse. At one point my father told me that regardless of how much money he had, he would never invest in my business. I learned from him that when I am pathetic, he will always rise to assist me. But if ever I am doing well and creating from a place that isn’t lackful, we’ll have no relationship. The worst part of this story is that it’s generational. My dad only treats me the way he was treated. Know what I'm curious about here? What if I treated me the way I should have been treated with regards to money?
And guess what… I’m going to change all of this. While I can’t see the details of the greater future I'm creating, I know it’s possible and that it’s up to me to be the one to create it.
Access Consciousness ™ is brilliant and I’m grateful for all the tools it’s given me, including the Clearing Statement (basically a stream of words you can use like a magic wand to change things up). I’ve done lots and lots of clearings with regards to money only to find the changes to be miniscule or short lived. What I’m finding with the How to Become Money Workbook is that clearing energy only goes so far. I actually need to strengthen my energetic awareness in totality and this, Sweet You, is just a choice.
There comes a time when all that’s left in order to make big changes is choice.
I’ve been reading through the workbook with anyone, anytime and the thing I see so many people doing is asking to simply POC/POD everything that comes up rather than be with the uncomfortable awareness of the life they’ve created and the living they could be creating.
Folks, you’ve got to have tenacity here if you really desire change.
2- Letters to Money. Early on I heard someone ask, “What if you treated Money like it was your lover?” That question became the inspiration I needed to begin writing letters to Money, as though we were in a partnership.
When I first started the correspondence more relationship insanity than I care to admit in a public blog came up. I’ll say this much though, I was a needy, demanding, uncaring, insecure, ashamed, embarrassed lover to Money. I had Money sooooo incredibly twisted up that I couldn’t see the light of day! Even so, I kept writing every day for a few months and Money started showing up in my life.
And then I stopped. I must’ve figured I’d reached my limit and that things were great enough. And then Money stopped showing up and I stopped doing any business. And then I had enough no-Money and I picked up the pen again and jumped into the workbook again and everything changed.
In fact, things have changed so much after only a few months that I’m just returning from a month long adventure that took me from my home on Colorado’s front range to Steamboat Springs for a consciousness series that somehow included a helicopter ride, delicious steak dinners cooked by locals I had just met, and an all inclusive pass to ride the mountain and soak in the pristine resort’s outdoor hot tub; a 5 day stay on a yacht in San Diegos’ Shelter Island Marina that included biking magnificent ocean paths, playing with the happiest magic makers on the planet, and being whisked away for an off the beaten path tour of the city that took me from cliff to mountain top to pier to aquarium; and after being home for 2 days I hopped in the car to head for southern New Mexico for another adventure in consciousness. I was greeted there by a bubble bath drawn just for me, breakfast cooked by the kindest host family I can imagine (and how does it get even better), coffee served in bed and a desert landscape that drew me to breathe the space of the planet like never before. This my friend, just a few months after a long stretch of ZERO INCOME.
I’m not telling you this to brag. I’m telling you this because truly, anything is possible.
I’m still writing Letters to Money. In fact, here’s and excerpt from today’s entry:
Things feel slow and stuck today. Can we go beyond that together and with my body? Can you show me what I’m missing here? Anything I’m doing to prove for and against anything with you, I’ll let that go. Can you help me with that?
And so much has come up with regards to you during the last few weeks of travel. Will you help me sort out what’s actually true for you and me? I’m curious if something else is possible that hasn’t been possible with you, my body, my life and living, sex, business, and relationship. Is this something we can create together now?
Money, what do you require of me? What do you know? Can you be louder than my stupidity and solidified points of view and louder than everyone else, even my friends, and louder even than everything showing up right now?
What can I change to have clarity with you, my living, the planet, my choice and the future.
Thank you for being with me Money. I’m grateful for the cup of coffee you provided this morning and for the lemon juice that settled my upset tummy this afternoon. Thanks for how you use my mom to get to me sometimes. I love that pathway. It feels really good and I am grateful for her. Would you find more pathways like that to get to me? I like it.
So yeah. 2 things. Get and actually DO the How to Become Money Workbook. Do it alone if you must but what would be possible if you were willing to read through it with anyone asking for change? Start a relationship with Money. Treat it as though it were your lover. Acknowledge what you like about it, where it is showing up, no matter how small. Ask Money to be there for you. Do it with letters if you like.
If it would change something in your life to have some assistance, guidance, community, and more information, please consider joining me in a 12 week exploration in discovering and committing to your financial world. Just click the image below to sign up for the free introductory call on February 24th.
I wonder what the world would be like if we were all willing to have Money support and play with us?
Lit and Comp teacher gone rogue, disguised now as a Living and Relationship Coach, Body Worker, and Access Consciousness Facilitator, I still sneak off to write because, well, it makes me come alive and it's one of the joyful ways I create the future.